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S omething surprising is beginning to emerge in marriage patterns between members of different religions in Britain. In the past, "marrying out" was seen either as a religious sin, partnering up with an unbeliever, or as a social crime, betraying the faith group identity. But in today's much more tolerant, pluralist society, mixed-faith marriage has become commonplace. People who mix together at work, socialise together afterwards.
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I live in Canada and I have almost decided to marry a Jewish girl. She belongs to Reformed Judaism and more like the Jewish traditions than actually practicing Judaism. I am a practicing Muslim in regards to praying, fasting etc. I have been living in Canada for almost five years now. I grew up in Pakistan. She is forty and I am thirty-eight years old.
We have known each other for almost three years. We connect on many levels and then there are other places where we differ a lot. That is mainly cultural and some religious differences. We have gone through a lot of discussions and I feel that as long as its only me and her in the picture I will inshaAllah be able to be content with my decision of marrying her, despite realizing the fact that there will be obstacles and more effort will be required in this relationship than having a traditional marriage with a Muslim girl.
When it comes to kids, we fail to reach a common resolution as our differences look bigger in that scenario. Just to give you an example, I think a sexual relationship can only be after marriage based on my religious beliefs and cultural practice and she thinks that in western culture it is not possible and as long as one can remain faithful to their partner unmarried they should be able to spend their lives as they want. She thinks kids could be given knowledge of both Jewish and Muslim traditions and I think they will be confused that way so they should be raised in one tradition and I want them to be Muslims and she does not want the kids to only associate to Islam but Judaism as well.
So we do not have an agreement there. She is already forty, so there may be complications in having kids altogether. She also thinks that at this stage of her life and given the situation she does not want to have kids. I love her and try to make every effort so that we can get married. I have also thought about not having kids. The dominant thought is to be able to live with her and I guess that is why I try to justify this thought by feeling that it is already late for me as well to have a traditional marriage cycle where one gets married at a younger age and have kids.
I am also behind in my career path and need more time and effort to work hard and establish myself. So I feel that kid will be a huge responsibility. The main reason behind this thought of not having kids remain to be the fact that it will complicate our lives as we might not even be able to get married if we decided to get married. I feel that she and I will be able to do other stuff in life that will help us not to miss having kids. For example she and I are very keen towards bringing Jews and Muslims closer and helping both sides understand that there are so many misunderstandings and misconceptions and lack of trust that is the cause of lot of friction between Jews and Muslims.
I would like your comments on the whole situation and my main question would be, in the given situation, if I decide not to have kids, will it be just according to Islam? In principle, according to the Qur'an, a Muslim man may marry a woman from the people of the book, although according to Javed Ahmad Ghamidi, the wording and the context of the verse that gives this permission is given with an assumption that is:.
In this way not only would there be no clash with polytheism, but also there was a great chance that most of them would accept Islam. Ghamidi J. Saleem, Monthly Renaissance Journal http: Disagreement on kids sexual life in terms of having or not having sexual relationship before marriage. Please note that both Islam and Judaism forbid sexual relationship before marriage. This is therefore as you for sure know is not a religious difference, but a personal and cultural one.
This is therefore something that the two of you should discuss in a personal level and you have words of advice of both Islamic as well as Jewish scholars and wise men to support you in this. Wanting kids to be Muslim and not to be confused with information about both Islam and Judaism. First, we cannot make our kids Muslim or non-Muslim. Islam is a belief and no person can be made a Muslim.
Your kids need to find Islam in their hearts themselves, although you as a father will have a huge effect on facilitating this. Second, whether you like it or not, in our era of technology, especially in a developed country, kids are exposed to any sort of information. It is no longer like old days where a kid was isolated in his own community and had no idea what was going on outside.
A few clicks on Internet and the kids can see promotional material related to almost every religion, as well as atheism. Where father and mother are coming from two different religions then the kids are even keener to study both religions. I therefore agree with your Jewish partner here. As we are talking about Judaism not Christianity I do not see much that I would consider directly against these in this context.
In fact there are many similarities as you mentioned yourself between Islam and Jewish beliefs and practices. In fact, the correct thing to say is that Judaism and Islam as well as Christianity are simply different version of the same religion; of course as Muslims we believe that the only authentic version at our time, which was revealed also to correct the earlier versions, is what we consider to be Islam.
I suggest raising of children in the context that you are, should start with these similarities before the differences naturally become exposed. This way the kids will have a solid foundation of belief in one God that is the most important thing and will then be in a better position to analyze the differences in a rational way. Of course you as a father will do whatever you can to bring to their attention the truth of the religion of Islam. If you try to isolate your kids to the knowledge of Islam, while their mother is Jew and they are living in a multi-cultural society, what might happen is that they might get bored and frustrated by what you are trying to do and will subconsciously get attracted to other beliefs and culture.
Having kids is a blessing from God and I do not think any concern financial, age, job related, etc. Having said that, there is nothing in Islam to forbid you from not having kids. It is therefore a decision that is left to you. Auto-login on future visits? Toggle navigation. Wed, January 28, - 4: Question I live in Canada and I have almost decided to marry a Jewish girl. Answer By Tariq Mahmood Hashmi. About the Author. Sign-in Close. An Al-Mawrid Account gives our members unfettered access to resources and content on more Al-Mawrid sites.
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In Rotterdam, posters of Jewish man and Muslim woman kissing spark a scandal the sensibilities of Dutch Muslims and other non-white minorities. . Likud MK rebuffs critics of his daughter dating an Arab: 'Get out of her life. According to all four schools of Sunni law and Shia Muslim man can marry the women from the People of the Book (i.e. the Jews and Christians); Muslim man cannot.
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But precisely such an image — part of a poster campaign celebrating diversity in the Netherlands — has triggered acrimonious debate, charges of racism, acts of vandalism and even threats by those who found it offensive. The reason: The women pictured in a series of posters were wearing Muslim headscarves — including one woman who was shown kissing a man wearing a kippah. To some of the detractors, the poster campaign was a provocation designed to upset the sensibilities of Dutch Muslims and other non-white minorities. Supporters of the initiative also handed out fliers with the images on the streets.
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When arranged marriages were common practice, it was background and families that brought couples together. In the modern day however, it is the spark of passion that ignites most relationships. In order to make a relationship succeed, both partners have to constantly work together. The two of us met in college and we were in the same classes together. We realized very early that our two backgrounds, probably the most diverse you could come up with—an Italian Jew and a Pakistani Muslim—made our viewpoints very different. In the early stages of our relationship, we faced a lot of negativity from close friends and relatives, but some very strong force kept our relationship together. By introducing each other to a new world of thought, we both became very open-minded. We started seeing the overwhelming similarities of our two religions and how silly some of the conflicts that arise between Muslims and Jews truly are. We reached a level of communication where we could almost predict what the other would think. However, for the past three years we have had to pursue our relationship in secret.
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It was May when the pair first met after being introduced through the dating app The League , which screens applicants and is aimed at young, successful, educated professionals. Khan, 33, is originally from Karachi, Pakistan. Cordova, 34, was raised in Seattle.
Interfaith marriage in Islam
It goes without saying that the marriage of a Muslim woman to a non-Muslim man is one of the main taboo issues in debates on Islam. It is absolutely the main verse that states a provision on marriage with a category of non-Muslims. Allah says: These invite to the Fire, and Allah invites to the Garden and to forgiveness by His grace, and makes clear His revelations to mankind so that they may remember. It is also worth reminding that polytheists were belonging to an aristocratic class of obscene wealth and indecent conduct, and whose lifestyle was reconsidered by the new social values of fairness and equity of Islam. The verse seems to urge Muslim men and women to choose the modest believing slaves over the rich arrogant polytheists even if the latter would look more attractive than the poor slaves. By getting married to slaves regardless of their social hardship, Islam encouraged Muslims to value people on other basis than their social class, and henceforth; find a balance between the differences established by the ethnic-tribal system at that time. The purpose was to absolutely avoid the marriage of Muslims to polytheists who made every effort to stand against a religion that was defending the most vulnerable people on earth. Muslim men and women were, therefore, encouraged to get married to those who believe, like them, in one God symbolizing a monotheism purified from all other divinities and injustice. Does it refer only to people who have just embraced Islam? Or does it imply the act of believing in its broad meaning, believing in One God and a monotheistic Revelation, which includes obviously believers of other monotheistic religions? Obviously, the said verse is open to interpretation.
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According to all four schools of Sunni law and Shia law, interfaith marriages are condoned only between a Muslim male and a non-Muslim female from the People of the Book that is, Christians and Jews and not vice versa. In some diaspora societies, interfaith marriages between Muslims and non-Muslims take place at substantial rates, including marriages that contradict the sharia consensus. Islamic marriage rules between Muslim men and non-Muslim women are regulated by Islamic principles. There are restrictions to whom a Muslim man can marry which are further explained below. According to Qur'an 5:
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If a young Muslim is aiming for this kind of compromise, there are other resources too. She also notes that families in the Muslim community have wildly different expectations of religious life and marriage so it is important for everyone to be on the same page. Interestingly, the lack of communication between Muslim men and women before marriage noted by many Muslim leaders is actually part of a larger problem that Ezzeldine believes is resulting in more interfaith matches. It is often easier for a Muslim to meet a non-Muslim of the opposite sex—in school for instance—than for a Muslim to meet another Muslim in a religiously sanctioned setting because Muslim prayer and religious education are all segregated by sex. Then of course they are going to make a connection and get married.Muslims Marrying Christians or Jews - Zulfiqar Ali Shah